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Do I know enough?

Do I know Enough

I just saw an article named “Do I Know Enough to be a Grown-Up?” and I found this so interesting I wanted to elaborate. Having done my fair share of worrying over the years and helping countless people with all sorts of questions, decision making skills and life concerns, I know there are a few keys to ditching the stress and moving forward.

It’s very common to wonder if you’re doing it right or to be concerned about a new phase of life or uncertainties. If you make a decision, will you be trapped forever? Will it always be that way or can you course correct and adjust?

Change can bring up a lot of fear, doubt and questions about your own ability to make the “right” decision. One of the questions in the article was: “What if I don’t know enough to make this all happen—to be a ‘successful’ Grown-Up?”

A version of this question is present in almost everyone’s thoughts. We always seem to think at some unknown point in the future, we will know more and have enough information, but yet in the moment, we are lacking and missing some crucial keys to be able to choose our lives.

Those inner voices that we all hear calling NEED to be called out. Rather than give attention, listen to and further induce doubt, we all need to get curious. Get in there with a large flashlight, and shine some light on those thoughts. The more light we shine, the more the real fears are felt. It’s amazing when you feel, those fears just melt away. Yes, there will always be doubt, cause for concerns and questions. The ability for you to be a “functioning” adult living above the normal emotional response is directly related to your ability to process your emotions and the depth of which you are willing to feel your inner thoughts. How present are you willing to be?

The point of the mind is to think. We can’t always control what the mind will think. Doing so will only magnify your frustration and lack of control. It’s impossible to know every little detail and thought that pops in our head and sometimes they are in the opposite direction of our goal or completely self-sabotaging. What you CAN control is the direction of your focus and ultimately, the choice of which path you take: one of complaint and victim or one of commitment and contribution.

When the mind wanders, you can first just notice. Say wow, that was an interesting thought. Do I need to check in more or release something? If yes, you can look further with that flashlight. If no, just move back into the direction you want to go. A great stress reliever is to get used to just letting things be and reinforce the habit of changing your focus back to what serves.

When you allow your mind to process and wander freely, your control actually rises and there is a freedom to decide. If it’s not right, you adjust. It’s only once we are on the path that we can truly course correct. Without taking that first step, it’s always impossible to know where to move. Life is like a chess game. Without being on the board and seeing where the second person moves, how could you possibly know your second move? It makes sense there, yet this is how most people live their lives.

So, can you be a responsible grown up and make mistakes? Of course! What a silly thought, right? So ask yourself: are you making it okay to live your life without taking the leaps you could be making?

If so, what is holding you back? What really has been holding you back? Are you really held back or have you just been comfortable where you are?

Ultimately, it does come down to a choice. YOU CHOOSE. You can either choose worry, fear, anxiety, or positive anticipation, butterflies, excitement, and finding mentors with whom to step into the unknown.

The potential questions we could be asking will probably never end, but we can choose where we focus our attention. I can tell you, when you change your focus from “Do I know enough to be a grown up?” or “What’s the right decision?” to “I know everything I need to know in this moment to make a choice,” your choice will become easier to make. Any choice you make is just a choice, and at least it’s step 1, which is closer to step 2 than not choosing to jump on the board.

Here are the 5 steps to implementing a successful plan:

1. Intentions: Set an intention of what you want. Why do you want it? Who will you contribute to by getting there or reaching an outcome? What will be possible in your life?
2. Actions: What actions will get you there? Lay out a plan and start putting dates in your calendar.
3. Accountability: What will keep you on your plan? Who do you need to tell? What’s your plan for when you get off track? (Hint: we all get off track—it’s about how fast you get back on, not when you get off)
4. Course Correct: Adjust as needed to get to your outcome.
5. Celebrate: Celebrate along the way and at certain benchmarks along the way, depending how long-term each goal is.


Pink Twitter BirdToday’s Tweetable: Are you making it okay to live your life without taking the leaps you could be making? @LaurinSeiden http://bit.ly/R2P2K8

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How are you going to play today?

I was thinking about you today and want to share a special message with you from one of my favorite places on earth. Was going down memory lane, doing snow angels off the side of the road a few blocks from my childhood home and was struck by the gratitude and joy…and had to share some with you.

Remember it’s never too late to be child-like and enjoy every moment. So, how are you going to play today?

In love and gratitude,

xo ~

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5 things you must do to make sure your relationship lasts

I thought about sending this out prior to the big Valentine’s Day;
then I felt like I was being bombarded with e-mails, posts and ads
about what to do and how to be on this one special day of the
year. I decided to share this after the fact, because it’s not that
we want to be a certain way on just one day of the year. Ideally,
Valentine’s Day can be a day of celebration of what we do all 365
days of the year rather than a need to prove something because
you aren’t taking care of yourself and your relationship all year
long. So, here are 5 keys to keeping your relationship on track all
year round.

1. Appreciation

Gratitude shouldn’t just be felt, but it should also be
expressed. When your partner does something thoughtful for
you, even if it’s something small, thank them and take a couple
of seconds to let them know how much you appreciate all the
little things they do. When you show your appreciation for your
partner, they are much more likely to continue that behavior and
do other things you will appreciate in the future. Think about
how you feel when you go out of your way to do something
nice for someone and they don’t say “thank you.” When you
feel neglected, you’re less likely to want to do nice things for
that person again. Once you get in the habit, voicing the words
“I appreciate you” on a regular basis, as opposed to once every
February 14th, will transform your relationship.

And to take it a step further, you can find out how your partner
feels appreciated. What is his or her love language? Do they like
to be touched, hear the words, appreciate an act of service or gift
as an acknowledgement or does spending time with them mean
more? It is worth investigating…

2. Communication

Honest communication is the greatest gift you can give your
partner throughout the entire year. Most of us are not mind
readers. It’s important to never let anything live in the world of
the unspoken. So many fights that couples have are about things
they don’t even know bother their partner.

What are your unspoken expectations for your partner? When
we have a certain idea in our head and then the situation
or conversation doesn’t play out accordingly there can be a
misunderstood frustration. You may feel tense and aren’t even
sure why. It’s important for you to get clear on your outcomes,
feelings and then to clue your partner in.

Remember, communication also doesn’t always have to be
serious or about negative things. It’s just as important to
communicate to your partner how much you love them, what
you’d love to do more of with them, and the things you love
about them.

For the next 30 days, I challenge you to tell your partner
something new you love about them each day. Watch how that
lights them up and makes them smile.

3. Spontaneity

As the saying goes, “variety is the spice of life”. Spicing up your
relationship and leaving space for you to be spontaneous is
important to keeping things fresh and passionate. It can be
surprising each other with something fun in your town, a night
in a hotel, or a weekend road-trip. This week my boyfriend
and I decided last minute to go skiing for the weekend coming
up and I can’t wait. For me, that’s adding so much more to our
relationship than if we had a planned trip for Valentine’s Day or
something predictable.

So go ahead and think outside the box and surprise your

4. Movement

Staying stagnant doesn’t help you stay at your best and in
the best mood. Emotion is created by motion. Get your body
moving! Whether it’s through going to the gym, jumping on
the rebounder, going for a walk or taking a bike ride, dancing,
hiking…do something to stay active. Do you ever notice how
when you sit on the couch all day doing nothing, you feel really
tired? The easiest way to change how you show up for your
partner is to move your body, take some deep breaths and get

Movement also helps you to lead into the next key to being open
to receive your partner.

5. Open

Openness and trust are crucial to a healthy relationship. It’s so
important to be open and honest with your partner…and you
need to always trust that your partner has the best intentions.

Remember when you find yourself taking something personally, it
wasn’t meant as an attack, it’s just two people getting triggered.
The best strategy is to be open with yourself, how you’re feeling
and what your ultimate outcome is. If your ultimate outcome is
to be loving and be in love, then open yourself up, communicate
from your truth and enjoy each other. You ALWAYS have that

Instead of a Valentine’s gift to your partner once a year, give your
partner the gift of these 5 keys every day of the year and watch
the magic of your relationship unfold even more.

xo ~

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Valentines Day Chocolate Craving? Here’s a Healthy Chocolate-Berry Ice Cream


Ice – about 1 bowl
Coconut Milk about 1/4 of can
Immortal Machine Protein Powder – 1 scoop
Cacao Powder – 1 1/2 tsp
Vanilla Creme Stevia – 4 drops
Vanilla Extract (optional)
Longan Tea – 1 tsp

Blend all ingredients together until it resembles the consistency of ice cream.

Where to buy the ingredients:
Longan Tea – http://www.longevitywarehouse.com/Dragon-Herbs-Longan-eeTee-Powder-2-5-oz-p/longaneeteejar.htm
Immortal Machine Protein Powder – http://www.longevitywarehouse.com/ProductDetails.asp?ProductCode=ImmortalMachine2
Vanilla Stevia – http://www.longevitywarehouse.com/ProductDetails.asp?ProductCode=SteviaVanillaOmica2
Cacao Powder – http://www.longevitywarehouse.com/ProductDetails.asp?ProductCode=CacaoPowderDW8oz

xo ~

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What does being a leader mean?

PinkAfter being inspired last night by Pink, one of my favorite female artists for 10 years now, I wanted to share about leadership.

People often come to me with questions about how to act, what to do and how to know whats really important. I realize a lot of these questions come from a place of wanting to be more. Knowing that we are inspired and lit up when we contribute. So if it’s true that we all want to step into the version of us that can lead others and be the best example we can be. What does that mean? Continue reading

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