Let’s face it, everybody wants more time. How often do you find yourself saying, “If I only had more time I would..”? With all of the uncertainty of life, the hours in the day are definitive. There are 24, no more, no less. What you do with those hours is up to you.
You can try all you want to manage your time, and there are many tools to do so, but if you want to be balanced – and fulfilled – I’d like to give you another perspective. While time is definitive, energy is unlimited. That’s right. Energy.
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I hear the same line from clients, friends and even family members, “I don’t have time for that.” Usually this is the go-to reason for not making a change, even if it’s for your own good. Let me tell you right now, you are not afraid of change. You are afraid of the energy commitment to change. People don’t make change because they’re already at max energy. It’s totally understandable. It’s not that waking up to go for a run at 5 a.m takes more time, it’s having the energy to do it every morning before getting the kids ready for school and your own butt out the door for work that seems difficult.
Time will pass whether or not you do it. Intellectually, you know that to be true. So you how do you become conscious of time passing at a deeper level, facing your fears and commit to change?
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Sure, as the old saying goes, time heals all wounds, right? No way! People live with same wounds because they live with same stories. It’s not time at all. It’s actually three distinct points:
1. Where are you putting your energy?
We all have our moments and sometimes go into unresourceful states, frustrated with co-workers, stacking all of our to-dos, thinking about our ex-boyfriend, reliving old stories, but where does that get you? Imagine you have only 100 units of energy in a day. If you spent 80 units thinking about the guy who hurt you, you only have 20 left for the remainder of the day. You feel depleted, like nothing is left. The same is true if you’re not living congruently with the direction you want to be heading. You are expending energy suppressing your desires, and most likely rationalizing why it has to be the way it is. I’m here to tell you this does not have to be the case.
If you put your energy somewhere else, tapping into thoughts or actions that serve, you have unlimited energy. Think about the last time you got into an argument. If all your energy is put on proving a point, you eventually run out of steam. But if you look past the point of being right and put in the effort to go beyond the confrontation, you can find a real solution. This leads us to the second question.
2. What are you focusing on?
Do you hate your job? Is your body not where you want it to be? What do you think about when you’re at the gym, how much you despise the treadmill? If you focus on what you don’t want, you can’t focus on what you do want because there is no way to give attention to both simultaneously. Practice catching yourself in moments that don’t serve. If you’re in the middle of stuff that you don’t like and your head is filling up with all of the excuses, the reasons why not, why you can’t – imagine riling up all of the potential energy inside of you, and pushing it out in front of you, outside of yourself. The goal is outside of you and you’re moving towards it. Remember the old cartoons where the character is running super fast and they leave the dust behind? You’re leaving your old self, the one with all the doubts and you’re sprinting towards your goal and the new you. Always be expanding your energy.
3. How do you get from where you are to where you want to be?
It’s funny, I keep hearing from clients, “I can’t start it’s too hard. It seems so easy for you.” Ok, so here’s the real truth most people don’t share. It’s the same work for the person teaching the information to you as it is for you to implement it! There are no secrets. What I can say is it is simple, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. The steps are easy, but they take work and discipline and a vision of the bigger why. What is moving you towards action? What is your motivation, and is it bigger than yourself to get you through the tough times? I work my ass off, but I’m also really good at reframing things. I consider work also as play even when it’s hard. I don’t take myself so seriously and get support along the way.
If you want something and don’t have it yet, it’s not because you don’t have time. You haven’t committed the energy to it. Your focus is off. You don’t have the strategy yet. You don’t have a mentor, someone who holds you accountable and shows you your blind spots. There may be fear. You may feel stress. Good! Stress is a signal telling you it’s time to step into something greater.
There are lots of trains running on parallel tracks. They each lead somewhere different. Decide where you’re going and choose how much energy you’re going to give until you reach your destination. How will you feel at the end? What kind of relationship do you want? How much energy do you need to give to creating and sustaining it? Is it worth it?
You have as much energy as you are willing to tap into and I know you can do it. I’d love to open a conversation. When you feel like there isn’t enough time, what has been your go-to strategy to get yourself into gear? And what does it need to be moving forward for you to live your ultimate life?!